Beat the Survival Game and Meet the Higher Needs of Self Actualization

The first sets of needs according to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs are: physiological, safety, social and belonging. We treated those needs in the article: “How To Beat The Survival Game And Achieve Self Actualization”. To read this article see the resource box.

Now we come to the “Esteem” needs. This level of needs is about being respected, or recognized. Being able to function in a way that you gain an adequate self image. Moving beyond any type of inferiority complexes etc. Here are some suggestions for gaining adequate esteem or status. Our focus will be on creating “optimal” situations that do not steal your energy. A surplus of energy is the best assurance of being able to move beyond the lower level needs and move into the higher level need brackets.

Find ways to contribute

Make sure these activities complement your values. The key is avoiding conflicts of interest. Also find activities that are low maintenance both timewise and moneywise. This endeavor will reward you with self respect and esteem. Recognition and admiration are important to both give and receive. They comprise a healthy respect for our interdependence. There are lots of “needy” people and it’s easy to find groups that help them. The environment faces threats that need correcting. Liberating social causes always need more voices to speak for them. You don’t have to become a fanatic. Just contribute in a measured and sane way. You will be rewarded.

Express your self creatively.

Find a medium that appeals to your nature and express your deepest thoughts and feelings. This could be something simple like a blog. You can start one free in many places on the Internet. Creative writing is a great way to stay in touch with your true self. If you’re into photography you can upload your pictures and talk about them. If you do artwork, you can scan it and upload it. Music is another way to express yourself deeply. MP3 files are easily created and uploaded with a computer.

After Esteem needs we move into the Being needs area. This is the actual frontier of true self actualization. Quoting now from Wikipedia:

“Self-actualization (a term originated by Kurt Goldstein) is the instinctual need of humans to make the most of their unique abilities and to strive to be the best they can be. Maslow describes self-actualization as follows:

Self Actualization is the intrinsic growth of what is already in the organism, or more accurately, of what the organism is. (Psychological Review, 1949)

Maslow writes the following of self-actualizing people:

* They embrace the facts and realities of the world (including themselves) rather than denying or avoiding them.

* They are spontaneous in their ideas and actions.

* They are creative.

* They are interested in solving problems; this often includes the problems of others. Solving these problems is often a key focus in their lives.

* They feel a closeness to other people, and generally appreciate life.

* They have a system of morality that is fully internalized and independent of external authority.

* They judge others without prejudice, in a way that can be termed objective.

In short, self-actualization is reaching your fullest potential.”

Ultimately, reaching your fullest potential requires a mastery of energy. Especially enough energy to be able to meet the lower level needs. The less energy you need to spend on the lower level needs, the more you will have available to meet the higher needs of self actualization. Finding creative and self perpetuating ways to meet those needs and to gather and preserve energy are what Optimal Living is all about.

Energy comes back to you in several ways. Money gives you security, food and shelter. From mature relationships and group involvement you get nurture, care, support and help when needed. When you learn to give out of your heart, you receive meaning and satisfaction. Engaging in creative expression keeps you in touch with your higher self and exercises that contact. From the aesthetic side of life – art, music, yoga,contemplation, openness and intimacy etc. you experience an increase in awareness, subtle pleasure, appreciation, admiration and the like.

My hope is that this article will allow you to establish a more clear vision for your life. That it will get your creative juices flowing towards “Optimal Living” ways to meet your needs and gather energy. That you will gain the momentum to achieve “escapevelocity” from the doldrums of a life of mere survival and move more quickly into self actualization.

How to Get Music, Games, and Software All in One Place

Music is a big part of society. You hear it in the mall, in someone’s car, or on TV. Many of us have different genres of music we like more. One thing is for certain that when we hear a song we like we want to own that song and be able to listen to whenever we want to. However, most of us don’t know the best places to get these songs . Most online stores charge 90 cents a song and if you go to a store you are often forced to buy the whole CD. Let’s face it most of us don’t feel like paying 90 cents for every song we want or buying those CD’s. However, there are certain online stores that don’t charge you every time you sign up.

These programs usually make you pay a sign up fee and then let you download unlimited songs for a certain period of time. However, some of these programs are expensive for the certain subscriptions they offer. Some of these programs can also not have a wide variety of products. Do not fear though there are still a wide variety of services out there that give you your moneys worth. Some people decide to go another route however. There are websites out there that provide you with free music but this is not only illegal but dangerous. Some of these websites will have music files but inside of these there are viruses that could hurt or possibly break your computer upon repair. I would advise that you stay clear of these websites and stick with buying music.

Now buying games and other software is a different story. Music is often a popular thing for people and there are less good software and game services. However, these websites are good because while music can be easily found on the internet most games and other software can sometimes be harder to find. Some software can be found on the internet easier than others but games can be hard to find sometimes. Most services will often offer unlimited music and software downloads but not games. This can often be frustrating because you have to either search for it on a search engine or have to go to a store and buy it which some games can be expensive.

There are many services out there offering unlimited music and software but some of these can be skeptical or not worth the amount of money they are asking for. I have spent a bunch of my money trying out these sites and have wasted money on the bad ones I have tried. If you want to find out more about these services click the link below.

Computer Games and Hollywood Movies

It is amazing how much computer games influence our society. It’s often said that art mimics life. This is true in many regards, but sometimes life mimics art. Consider many of the science fiction type movies that have a common theme, and a common foundation of the computer game phenomena. Computer games have obviously only been around since such electronic devices have been available. It’s still a rather new industry, and just think, 30 years ago people didn’t have personal computers, therefore they didn’t play games on those computers. See my point?

The other day, I went to see the movie “Battleship” and the movie had some great special effects, and some of the futuristic technology war game computational radar screens, which looked very much like the electronic version of the family game “Battleship” and so you see computer games in Hollywood movies also have quite a bit in common along the lines of their foundation. Screenplay writers often weave into their storyline such gaming technologies, albeit taken to the next level. It is my contention that we should expect this trend to continue are off into the future, if not motivate humans to create that future.

Some say that computer games are a conspiracy theory to get young kids interested in fighting wars electronically, controlling mechanical weapons and combat equipment far away. It stands to reason that in the future these skills will be needed, and those kids that played video games all of their lives will most likely be the ones at the controls of our future fighter planes, stealth bombers, and unmanned ground vehicles. Today your kids might be playing the video game, tomorrow they might be working for the Department of Defense defending this great nation.

Without getting into the heart of that debate over the morality of such issues, you can see that the Hollywood script writers do indeed believe that this will be our potential eventuality in the future, and they are duly writing those scenarios into the movies we are watching today. We all know that the science fiction of today will become the science fact of tomorrow. Perhaps a lot of that is occurring in the entertainment world, as it is being introduced to our society and civilization in this way.

Now then, I would like you to stop and think for a moment how many Hollywood movies that you’ve seen in the last few years that have a computer gaming theme. I think when you do that, you will see exactly what I’m talking about. In fact, if you want to help jog your memory, go onto Google or Yahoo and search “Hollywood science fiction movies with computer games,” and you’ll be surprised how many movies pop up, and when you watch some of those trailers you will see just what I’m talking about. Please consider all this and think on it.